Carlos Mendiola

The Art of Authenticity podcast with Laura Coe

Paul Jarvis: Company of One

In this episode of The Art of Authenticity, Laura Coe talks with Paul Jarvis, writer, designer and author of Company of One.

Growth isn’t always good

Paul has worked for himself and by himself for twenty years. When he tried to grow his company the conventional way, he found classic growth models weren’t authentic to him. His work focuses on the contrarian view that business growth isn’t always good, and isn’t always required.

What the conversation covers

Passion, goals and achievable lists, how Paul stays motivated, when to pursue something and when to quit, opportunities versus obligations, and what an authentic life means to him.

Show Notes

  • Paul’s background and the ideas behind Company of One. [2:00]

  • Deciding not to grow through experimentation and doing the work. [5:46]

  • When passion is the problem and the lack of introspection. [9:30]

  • Incremental steps and Paul’s opposition to goals. [13:43]

  • Staying present through your ambitions. [15:02]

  • Achievable lists and acknowledging the setbacks in life. [16:32]

  • Busyness and maintaining energy levels. [18:44]

  • Finding your brand of success and knowing what you love. [21:13]

  • How Paul knows when to quit. [24:35]

  • Differentiating between opportunities and obligations. [28:11]

  • Your own unique authenticity and discovering your path. [29:40]

  • Paul’s own idea of an authentic life! [30:55]

  • Daily rituals and practices that have helped Paul. [33:42]

  • And much more!

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What is Company of One about?

The idea that business growth isn’t always good or required, and that staying small can be a more authentic path.

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Nadja Pinnavaia: The Other Side To Finding Peace

In this episode of Art of Authenticity, we had a conversation with Nadja Pinnavaia, Founder of  Euphebe. 

Today on the show we are joined by Nadja Pinnavaia. Nadja is the founder of Euphebe Healthcare and she is here to talk to us about how we can really change our lives by the way we eat. Prior to founding Euphebe, Nadja was an undergraduate student in Chemistry from King’s London College. She gained her Ph.D in Quantum Chemistry from Saint Catherine’s College in Cambridge, and then went on to become managing director at Goldman Sachs. Nadja has certainly got the education, the background, and a ton of amazing accomplishments under her belt. However, because of a personal experience dealing with cancer in her family, Nadja decided to switch her focus to food; why it matters, why it can really change your life, and how it impacts our health and wellness.Inside this episode we get into more detail about Nadja’s program and exactly what it offers. This is a topic that I am certainly passionate about. It changed my life to get educated about the food we eat and it has made a significant difference. We talk often on this show about finding a life that is meaningful and authentic, but we also have to deal with the physical. If we don’t take care of ourselves and our bodies, all of the consequences can get in our way of living that authentic life. Tune in to hear Nadja’s advice on how you can take charge and change your life for the better.

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Show Notes:

  • The back-story of how Nadja got into the food, health and nutrition industry. [3:28]

  • How the immense amount of sugar in our diets affects our risk for cancer. [5:55]

  • Why the conventional advice of “eat less, move more” is doomed for failure. [6:51]

  • What is the “Crappy Food Cycle” and how does it hurt our bodies? [8:18]

  • Nadja’s “aha” moment that caused her shift into the food and health sector. [10:03]

  • The dopamine and serotonin shifts that occur and how it affects our bodies. [13:46]

  • Understanding the “hidden” sugars within our foods and how to properly read labels. [16:23]

  • Why it is critical to recognize and understand the addictive voice to create change. [20:49]

  • The Euphebe 28-Day Reboot Program and what it involves. [23:29]

  • Learning to recognize the presence of sugar in our every-day foods. [26:34]

  • And much more!

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Laura Coe and Kate Swoboda — The Art of Authenticity podcast

Kate Swoboda: The Courage Habit

In this episode of Art of Authenticity, we had a deep dive into courage with Kate Swoboda, Coach, writer, and Director of the Courageous Living Coach Certification. 

On today’s show, we have Kate Swoboda joining us. Kate is the creator of

YourCourageousLife.com

, Director of the Courageous Living Coach Certification at

TribeCLCC.com

and author of

The Courage Habit

. Kate is a writer and facilitator on the topic of habit-formation and psychological courage, where she particularly explores how these tools can be used for women’s wellbeing and leadership–at home, at work, and in our communities. In this episode, we are going to talk about courage, how to accept your fears, release the past, and live your most courageous life. A lot of people want to step forward and live a more authentic life, and Kate shares with us how courage plays a very large role in that experience. She lays it out in incredible detail, with a four-part process that she believes will help you step into the life that feels right for you. Kate has been featured in

MindBodyGreen

,

Entrepreneur

,

USA Today

,

Forbes

, and many other publications. I definitely learned a lot from this episode and I hope that you will too. Tune in to hear all about how you can take charge, seize your courage, and really grab ahold of that authentic life you’ve been dreaming of living.

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Show Notes:

  • Kate’s story on how she started her life’s work surrounding courage and fear. [2:16]

  • Understanding your willingness and tolerance to be in the discomfort. [5:02]

  • Learning to identify the gift that is revealed in hindsight of the discomfort and fear. [6:40]

  • Reasons why you should feel your feelings and strategies to face it. [10:10]

  • The predominant ways we deal with fear: avoid it, please it, or attack it. [12:35]

  • Courage habits and strategies for addressing your fear in the long-term. [13:22]

  • The four courage-based behavioral responses that replace fear-based patterns. [15:02]

  • Why fear is a wounded part of who we are and triggers self-preservation instincts. [17:22]

  • Understanding that fear is a primal response that overrides logic. [19:27]

  • Learning to access your body: mindfulness, conscious crying, dancing, cathartic exercise. [20:02]

  • How to listen to your fear: learning to recognize your fear pattern. [22:20]

  • Four predominant fear patterns: perfectionism, martyrdom, pessimism, self-sabotage. [24:16]

  • Why it is critical to take the time for cognitive reframing of limiting stories in your life. [26:36]

  • What it means to reach out and create community to help you cover your blind spots. [29:14]

And much more!

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Mike Bundrant: A Model To Live More Authentically

In this episode of Art of Authenticity, we had a deep dive into meditation with Mike Bundrant, Coach, Therapist, and Founder of the INLP Center. 

Today on the show we welcome Mike Bundrant. Mike is the Founder of the iNLP Center and if you’re interested in coaching, or in neuro-linguistic programming in particular (which is the program I went through), this is an awesome school. Mike is here today to talk to us about a model from that program called the VAK Model, which stands for Visual, Auditory and Kinesthetic. Pictures, sounds, and feelings all work together within us and this model really represents the science behind the Art of Authenticity – the intuition and the deeper sense of self. A lot of us are trying to figure out what we want to do with our lives and how we can live a more authentic life and this episode is really a deep dive into how to use the tools that are given to us: our feelings, our visual ability and our auditory ability to make decisions and move forward in life. All of us have a dominant component of these three and if we are unable to connect the Visual, Auditory and Kinesthetic within us, it can lead to impulsivity and inauthentic decisions. Mike shares his insights on how we can use this information to our advantage and help us to navigate a life that feels truly authentic.

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Show Notes:

  • Learn more about the Visual, Auditory and Kinesthetic components of self. [4:10]

  • Why one of the three components tend to be dominant for each individual. [5:30]

  • How to figure out which of the three components is more dominant for you. [6:00]

  • Connecting minds-eye images with feelings: How do we know what we truly want? [9:10]

  • Impulsivity and what happens when we shut out one of these three main channels. [10:40]

  • Creating balance between the three components of Visual, Auditory and Kinesthetic. [12:57]

  • The effect of fear, approvals and unprocessed feelings can have on our decisions. [18:30]

  • Distinguishing the difference between authentic feelings and irrational feelings. [19:50]

  • Tips for enhancing the visual processing component of one’s own life. [22:50]

  • Mike’s advice for tapping into these modalities to help us move forward in life. [27:20]

  • Why you’ll know you have the right image when it explains the symptom. [35:00]

  • And much more!

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Amy Owen: How You Can Change Your Life Just By Changing Your Breath

In this episode of Art of Authenticity, we had a deep dive into meditation with Amy Owen, yoga teacher and dula. 

Today on the show we are joined by repeat guest, Amy Owen. Amy is a mother of three, a birth doula, a retreat leader, a yoga instructor at Yoga View in Chicago City, and has been practicing meditation since 1986. Amy came on the show a while back, where we had an amazing discussion on breathing correctly and we’ve invited her back to share her amazing insights. Although it may seem like a simple concept (breathing is something we do without even thinking after all!) but the truth is breathing can help tremendously with a range of things from anxiety to high stress. You can alter your entire nervous system just by altering your breath and learning how to breathe properly from somebody like Amy, can really change your life in a matter of twenty seconds. In this episode, Amy shares the basics of proper inhaling and exhaling and walks us through a few simple Prana breathing techniques that you can use to calm your mind and become more present in any given moment.

Take a listen!

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Show Notes:

  • Learn why it is important to think about the way we breathe. [2:10]

  • Why most of us are shallow breathers only using 30% of our lung capacity in daily life. [3:40]

  • How deepening the breath can create vitality and energy. [4:34]

  • What happens when we bring our mind to our breath? [6:10]

  • Amy walks us through the basics of proper inhaling and exhaling. [6:40]

  • The importance of realizing that our breath starts in the belly. [6:57]

  • Amy’s tips for getting people to breathe in different directions. [8:30]

  • Finding a balance between energy and ease in your breath. [10:20]

  • Moving your breath into six parts of your body and envisioning the helium balloon. [10:50]

  • Join Amy in a simple breathing technique helpful for anxiety. [12:41]

  • Amy’s helpful breath tip before walking into any stressful situation. [15:27]

  • And much more!

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Amy Owen: Why We Need To Be Listening To Our Heart Brain: A Meditation

In this episode of Art of Authenticity, we had a deep dive into meditation with Amy Owen, yoga teacher and dula. 

Today on the show we are joined by Amy Owen. Amy is a mother of three, a birth doula, a retreat leader, a yoga instructor at Yoga View in Chicago City, and has been practicing meditation since the ripe year of 1986. Although meditation might have not been as popular in the western world back then, today more and more people are wanting to include meditation into their lives and science is even stepping up and proving its life-changing benefits. In this episode, we discuss what meditation is, the benefits of meditation and what exactly happens to our mind when we do it. Amy explains the difference between the head brain and the heart brain and how meditation aims to strengthen the heart brain, which is growing progressively weaker with the demands of busy western life. Amy also shares one of her favorite mantra’s and invites us to try out one of her favorite simple meditations that you can start doing today. Whether you are new to meditation, are thinking of doing it or have been a lifelong meditator like Amy herself – this episode is for you.

Take a listen!

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Show Notes:

  • Amy explains the head brain and the heart brain and how we use them in modern life. [3:15]

  • Why our head brains are over-developed and our heart brains are under-developed. [6:20]

  • Learn why meditation is a tool to develop the heart brain and quiet the head brain. [7:50]

  • Amy gives useful tips for quietening a busy, over-thinking mind during meditation. [9:30]

  • Learn a technique and mantra that Amy uses to help ease the mind into meditation. [10:50]

  • Find out what a mantra is and why it is a powerful tool in meditation. [11:15]

  • Why Amy likes the simple repletion of the mantra: I [inhale]. Am [exhale]. [11:30]

  • Close your eyes and do a short meditation along with Amy and I in this podcast. [12:20]

  • And much more!

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Laura Coe and Bryan Reeves — The Art of Authenticity podcast

Bryan Reeves: On Communication in Relationship, Avoid The Death Gap

In this episode of Art of Authenticity, we had an inspirational conversation with, Bryan Reeves, relationship coach, blogger, and author.

Today we welcome repeat guest, Bryan Reeves. Bryan is a relationship ninja, coach, blogger and author and you can learn more about him and his personal journey in an earlier episode he did with us. But for today, we spend most of the time diving into what he calls the “Death Gap.” Some people are more inclined toward logic (masculine) and others more toward intuition (feminine) and Bryan describes the Death Gap as that space in a relationship where one person comes from a more logical place and the other person comes from a more intuitive place. The feelings versus the analysis that lets two people fall into a gap of disconnection in their relationship. We’ve all been there, right? I know I have. In this episode, Bryan walks us through how to avoid this disconnection and how to make the changes in the relationship that you want. This is a really insightful information that will help you in a relationship, or if you’re single, it will surely help you going into a relationship. Bryan gives us the specific tools and ideas to help us make those changes and become better communicators with our partners and even our family members, friends and colleagues.

Take a listen!

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Show Notes

  • How Bryan went from the military to becoming a relationship coach. [2:50]

  • Why men continue to live in adolescence well into their forties. [5:20]

  • The intimate relationship as the catalyst for men’s inner crisis. [4:07]

  • What Bryan means by ‘masculine’ and ‘feminine’ energies. [7:30]

  • The values of masculine logic versus the values of feminine intuition. [10:17]

  • Are we using our logic to serve and act on our intuitive knowing? [14:27]

  • How the logical and the intuitive partner try to fix disconnect. [15:00]

  • What an intuitive partner needs to know about their logical partner. [16:30]

  • How to make your partner feel free rather than fearful. [17:14]

  • Why you need to avoid each other’s triggers in order to communicate effectively. [19:00]

  • Why It only takes one person to break the “Death Gap” cycle. [20:00]

  • Are you building a castle that has no life inside of it? [22:10]

  • Being comfortable with being uncomfortable in our feelings. [24:04]

  • Embracing difference: Communicating in a way that serves your partner. [31:30]

  • And much more!

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Laura Coe and Dr. Sharad Paul — The Art of Authenticity podcast

Dr. Sharad Paul: Hacking Our Genetic Codes To Become The Best Version Of Ourselves

In this episode of Art of Authenticity, we had an inspirational conversation with, Dr. Paul Sharad, geneticist and author.

Today on the show, we welcome Dr. Sharad Paul. Dr. Paul is a world-renowned geneticist and thought leader on the topic of genetics. Dr. Paul has discovered how to tap into genes to figure out who we really are, what makes us tick and how we can hack our own genetic codes to become the best version of ourselves. He is also the author of The Genetics Of Health, a book he wrote to help us take charge of our health by understanding the connection between our evolutionary past and our future wellbeing.

But what does it mean to think about genetics in terms of authenticity? How do we tie the way we are made, or our blueprint, into how we live and become our truer self – in our health, our life and our business? Dr. Paul has his MD, a Masters in Philosophy and Law and has some extremely thoughtful, human and personal perspectives on health. In this episode, we explore how ow our unique DNA effects the way we respond to everyday things like food, exercise, stress, prescription drugs and even coffee!

Take a listen!

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Show Notes

  • Why genes are our blueprints and not our destiny. [3:00]

  • Paul’s thoughts on today’s trends and fads of health. [04:05]

  • What does it mean to eat for your gene type? [07:10]

  • The different types of gene testing and how they can benefit you. [10:27]

  • Is stress really one of the major reasons for illness in America? [12:16]

  • Why are modern humans today in a constant state of flight? [16:28]

  • The role of genetics versus the role of environment. [19:05]

  • Discover why Dr. Paul hasn’t had a sick day in over 30 years. [22:47]

  • Why medicine is not health: How we can take personal responsibility for our bodies. [26:08]

  • How the tango and line dancing can lower your risk of dementia. [29:50]

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Jake Eagle: How to Have Authentic Relationships

In this episode of Art of Authenticity, we had an inspirational conversation with, Jake Eagle Psychotherapist and coach. 

Today on the show we are joined by Jake Eagle. Jake is a licensed Psychotherapist for 25 years and now he coaches and mentors individuals and couples. He and his wife, Hannah, have created books, online courses, retreats, and programs. Hannah practiced classical Homeopathy for twenty years in New Mexico and now she provides alternative health consultations. Jake and Hannah have been happily married since 1993 and both love how easy their relationship has become. This is all due to the communication and relating skills they use on a day-to-day basis from the practice of Live Conscious.

Jake and Hanna bring about this very different view of relationships in their course, Dating, Relating and Mating, and they bring up this idea that it should be easy. You don’t have to push into your wounds to heal through your partner, that you actually should think about your values. I mean, what an idea, right? Before you get married, spending time to think about what your core values are and how they relate to the other person to determine if you are in fact compatible. I really enjoyed our conversation and I know you will, too.

Keep listening!

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Show Notes

  • The first phase of dating and the difficulty of what that leads to later in the relationship. [5:45]

  • An overview of the dating, relating, and mating phases and what they should look like. [06:05]

  • Understanding the concept of presenting yourself for who you truly are; authentic self. [10:04]

  • Seeing life as an opportunity for growth and evolution, rather than making it difficult. [12:51]

  • Recognizing that we sometimes victimize ourselves when we really are not victims. [14:25]

  • An unusual view of relationships; the idea of being intolerant. [15:43]

  • The three keys for communicating through intolerance: perception language, witnessing. [18:13]

  • Forming high-level agreements for non-negotiable values for each person in the relationship. [21:04]

  • Breaking through the myth and understanding that love is not always enough to conquer all. [22:13]

  • Defining the act of love and how it is centered around reflecting back their inner beauty. [24:44]

  • Learning to heal and care for yourself through loving others, and letting others love you. [29:33]

  • Why authenticity requires presence and respectfully witnessing to yourself and others. [31:37]

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Laura Coe and Michelle Tillis Lederman — The Art of Authenticity podcast

Michelle Tillis Lederman: 11 Laws of Likability

In this episode of Art of Authenticity, we had an inspirational conversation with, Michelle Tillis Lederman.

Today we welcome Michelle Tillis Lederman. She is named one of Forbes top 25 networking experts, is the author of three books including

The 11 Laws Of Likability

and her latest,

Nail The Interview, Land The Job.

Michelle is the CEO of Executive Essentials, which provides custom communication leadership training and coaching programs. She has appeared on NBC, CBS, FOX, Skill King, PR, Wall Street Journal, New York Times, Working Mother, US News and World Report and US Today, just to name just a few! In this episode, we walk through two of the

11 Laws Of Likability

and believe it or not, the very first law is all around authenticity. If you are struggling to make authentic connections or getting people to respond well to you or build the likability that you are looking for in your life, Michelle has very clear practical ways of thinking about authenticity in terms of likability. Today we touch on self-reflection, giving without expectation, and reframing what you feel you “have” to do. Keep listening!

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Show Notes

  • Moving from skills to passion: Michelle’s midlife crisis in her 20’ [3:34]

  • Why Michelle decided to hone in on the idea of likability. [7:50]

  • Michelle gives an overview of her book 11 Laws Of Likability.[9:19]

  • Why chapter one focuses on the law of authenticity. [10:10]

  • The difference between flexing and squashing your attributes. [16:40]

  • Reframing what we get to, want to, should do or have to do. [19:39]

  • The law of giving as the fundamental law to authentic connection. [27:20]

  • Why Michelle wrote Nail The Interview, Land The Job for veterans. [35:18]

  • Understanding that everything comes down to relationships. [37:34]

More about Michelle

Websites: www.michelletillislederman.com/, www.executiveessentials.org/Book Sites; www.11lawsoflikability.com/, www.heroesgethired.com/YouTube Channel: www.youtube.com/user/MichelleLedermanLinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/communicationexpertspeakerMichelle on Twitter — https://twitter.com/mtlederman.Michelle’s Blog — https://michelletillislederman.com/blog/Michelle’s Facebook Page — https://www.facebook.com/MichelleTillisLedermanFree Gift Pack — https://michelletillislederman.com/giftpack/

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