In this episode of Art of Authenticity I had a thoughtful conversation with Felicia Spahr about how to focus on the things that truly matter in a world that seems designed to distract us at every turn.Felicia is a leadership coach who helps ambitious, professional women focus on what matters and eliminate and delegate what doesn’t to move towards bigger goals, all without burning out.She helps people find productivity systems that work so that you can stay consistent and motivated. She works with project managers, lawyers, doctors, marketers, etc. She works with women specifically who want to do their best and feel overwhelmed.

It’s very easy to be overwhelmed in today’s world, and I think that we all already know this to be the case. The case for single tasking and focusing on what’s truly important has never been stronger, but the advice on how to get there is sometimes lacking.That’s why I loved this conversation with Felicia. She really knows her stuff and has focused on a specific type of person — busy and successful women — so she can really hone in and help them with their specific problems. As one of those women myself, I got a lot out of this conversation personally and know that you will as well. Thanks once again for tuning in — I appreciate it!

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Show Notes

  • Felicia discusses the myth of having to sacrifice things you enjoy in exchange for personal growth. 2:37

  • Questions we should ask ourselves in order to reach our goals. 4:48

  • Breaking down what we want in life, isolating an area of your life to focus on, and how that will affect other areas of lives. 5:57

  • How the book “French Woman Don’t get Fat” helped improved multiple areas of Felica’s life. 7:19

  • Different perspective on how to improve your life. Focusing on what is working well, rather than what’s wrong in your life. Which makes improving your life feel more natural. 9:04

  • Feeling overwhelmed because of not knowing what your priorities are. Why the feeling of being overwhelmed in and of itself, is actually a good thing.10:47

  • Why you shouldn’t give everything “top priority”, and why you should let go of less important things. 13:08

  • In the “assembly line” you come first, so in order to be your best you must prioritize yourself first. 14:32

  • Your second priority should be your relationship, so that you have a good foundation to resolve any problems that may occur. 15:35

  • It is better to have a system that fosters relationships rather than a one-time fix. 18:46

  • How to work with woman who have lost track of their priorities. Sometimes, they don’t even know that they have lost track of their priorities.

  • Woman are used to beating themselves up which leads to a feeling of guilt 26:01

  • On woman having the urge to be busy all the time. Always filling up free time when it becomes available. 28:00

  • Tuning in to what your body is telling you is important. 31:13

  • Realizing that work life and personal life is actually one life. If everything is working in one area of your life, then that area you think is working probably isn’t working. 32:29

  • Felicia’s personal story on the feeling of being on the path of self-destruction, and how she moved on to become a coach.

  • Emotional story of grandfather being ill, and the importance of allowing yourself to grieve and being your own advocate. What do you need to do in order to allow yourself to heal properly without feeling guilty. 39:01

  • Everyday routine and habits to be more productive. “Before anything comes in, I want to get it all out”. 43:34

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